“But Ive had people ask and Im always honest with them.I wouldnt see a reason to keep it a secret, especially if were getting serious.” If youre worried that your health secret might be a deal-breaker, youll want to 'fess up by the fourth date, says Rachel A.“[Revealing too much too soon] may color how your partner sees you,” Dr. “It defines you before youre ready to be defined.” Jenny*, a 25-year-old graduate student from New York, had a breast augmentation when she was 19.“I dont really bring it up, not when Im first dating people,” she says.But what if this involves a health or medical secret you're hesitant to talk about?
Never tell on a first date“Never tell someone on a first date,” Davis says. Robbins seconds that, especially if youre worried that your health secret “is likely to define you before the person has gotten a chance to know you at all.” That doesnt mean you should liejust let your partner get to know you first.
“I dont think I was ever able to shake off the feeling I was springing the information on him, usually when we were either out to dinner and he wanted to order a bottle of wine, or at a party where alcohol was introduced,” he says. Sorry.” That changed, however, as he got used to talking about his condition.
“As time went on, and I got more comfortable with this side of my life, so did the ease with which I told a man not to expect a tequila-scented smooch at the end of the night,” he says.
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